love relationship

Mahbuba Hoque / April 18, 2016

10 little things which all cute loving couples do everyday !

Have you ever wondered what happens after all of those fairy tales marriages? What do Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Rapunzel, and all other beauties and their charming princes do to make the happily-ever-after work out?

Well, it doesn’t take a genius to guess, right? If you are in a healthy relationship, or are happily married, you won’t need to draw inspirations from Disney characters. You have your own fairy tale, written only by you two. There are little little things they do everyday..

1. They communicate.

Communicating is a form of bonding. Having a real conversation at least once a day is enough to wipe away any form of misunderstanding. If you are bothered about something or have an objection to something your partner is doing, talk.

Tell that to your companion, strike up a conversation. Please do not nag or complain, only seeing the faults in them. Appreciate the positives, rather than the negatives. Keeping your partner in the loop of your daily activities is another form of communication. In this way, you are not missing out on each other’s day-to-day affairs.

2. They grow common interest.

Sharing some common interests (not all) with your partner is a sign of healthy relationship. Happy couples tend to enjoy each other’s company no matter what they are doing.

You may not be fond of his obsession with NFL(National Football League), or he may not enjoy watching Desperate Housewives with you, but there are certain things that you two can do together.

Let’s take cooking as an example. You guys can cook up meals you always found challenging. Or, start gardening. Take baby steps, and you two can grow a beautiful garden together.

3. They spend time together.

With a fast paced life, it is hard to find spare time for personal entertainment. Why don’t you take at least half an hour from your busy schedule, and utilize it?

On the weekends do something different. For instance, go to a drive-in movie. Even if you are not interested in the movie, you can always sit back with popcorn and drinks, and enjoy each other’s company under the sky.

4. They cuddle huddle.

Going to bed at the same time doesn’t always mean having sex. You can simply lie down with your partner under the blanket and cuddle huddle. Do you know that there has been research that shows how smelling your partner while cuddling has a positive effect on your relationship?

The body odor of your partner has certain chemical keys that instigate comfort or a sense of security in you. Therefore, cuddling is a special response to a healthy relationship.

5. They hug and peck.

For some, this may sound like a silly thing to do everyday (I know few couples who don’t hug and kiss each other. Only God knows why.), but this “silly” matter is actually a powerful medicine to keep you two happy.

Before heading out to work, and after coming back home, commit to squeezy, beary hugs and kisses. Make this a ritual; you two won’t be able to let go of it, trust me! Happy couples usually stamp kisses and cling on their partners whenever they feel like. I guess that’s why they are happy, right?

6. They signify I “heart” you everyday.

Expressing “I Love You” all the time may seem monotonous to you, but that’s not true. I call these the “magic words.” Uttering the magic words twice a day is sufficient, especially before going to work, and before hitting the sack. You and your partner know how much you care and love each other. Regardless, verbalize the words because “it’s only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away.” — Boyzone

7. They have a sense of humor.

Cracking jokes every now and then has a positive impact on a relationship.We can’t imagine our life surrounded by serious people. we need humor. And so do you! Happy couples know the right time to be witty. And laughing even at the lamest jokes on earth can increase the level of love between the two of you. Understanding sense of humor, how to perk them up on a down day…there’s nothing sweeter, right?

8. They switch off their ringers.

Most of your time is spent at work. The other time is spent doing miscellaneous works, including eating and sleeping. So whatever leftover time you have, utilize it for each other. Stop browsing the internet, socializing in all respects, and simply hit the power button. Switch off your phones, and be connected with your partner face to face. You’ll love it!

9. Share the shower.

When your relationship advances, you eventually begin taking showers together. You scrub each other’s backs and sometimes even shampoo and condition each other’s hair. Those brave foot-massaging gals might even scrub the guy’s feet with a body scrub.

10. They plan their futures together.

Planning your futures can take two forms. One, you sit down with calendars, calculators, and note pads. Two, you have a deep and meaningful conversations on future plans for your lives together. For example, happy couples have a custom of planning everything together, regardless of how trivial the matter is.

You two are a team, so work like a team. Make everything happen together, whether it is related to the children, your sex life, your career, or your plans for buying a house. Planning makes your bond stronger and enriches your journey together.

Happy couples never have the same character. And they have a good understanding of their differences. It doesn’t take a lot of effort; small gestures are enough to make you two live happily ever after!

lailawati / September 12, 2015

Why Affairs Happen?

One of the hardest phenomena we are facing today, especially in big cities, is that a lot of people are having tendencies to have affairs. Psychologists state that due to the overwhelming pressures and stress faced by many in today’s fast world, many fall prey to having affairs.

Those who fear strongly about their partner cheating on them should try to understand the causes of why some men and women are vulnerable to having affairs.

By realizing what causes people to have affairs, you may be able to prevent your own partner by being tempted to have an affair.

The following aspects are the main causes why people are having affairs :

Loneliness

The primary cause of affairs is loneliness – the feeling that develops when intimacy is lacking in one’s life. People feel alone when they have no one with whom to share the events, both major and minor of their lives. So it very important for love partners to have constant intimacy they can share and enjoy with each other to make their love relationship stronger.

You should also understand your partner’s attitudes and behaviors and accept them as part of their nature without trying to change them. On the other hand you should also get the same understanding from your partner. This mutual understanding plays a very important role in creating a strong and loving relationship.

Monotony

Couples should be able to create a rich and varied life to enjoy together towards their true happiness. It’s important to remember that variety is the spice of life and if not, sooner or later monotony will invite boredom between love partners.

Rich variations of life is not only in enjoying their everyday activities together but in their social lives with close friends, business partner/s and relatives. There needs to be variation in their private lives also which includes sex to enrich their life and love.

Failure to communicate

Most couples fail to communicate in healthy ways and then quite often end up arguing or blaming each other constantly. They misunderstand each other easily and then constant argument and bickering leads to long term resentment and mistrust.

The most important aspects needed in creating good and warm communication between couples are, of course, understanding and appreciating each other properly. Each partner should realize the likes and dislikes of his or her love partner. They should be able to communicate in healthy, loving and honest ways so as not to hurt the other one.

Establish Priorities

Whatever your other concerns – job, family, children, social lives – your relationship with your spouse or your partner must take precedence. Time and effort must go first into your love relationship – and then into other aspects of your life. If you don’t recognize your priorities in this way, you may as well kiss your partner good-bye.

Avoid trigger points

Communication can be destructive or nurturing, tearing down or building self-esteem. It is easy to slip into destructive patterns that erode self-worth and eventually destroy the love relationship you would like to foster. There is or are trigger points which can cause a severe fight between couples, and the trigger points is different for every couple depending on the strength of the relationship. Watch for and avoid those trigger points that can cause anger and resentment in your love relationship. If you can identify and neutralize them, you will develop more effective communication and a better and healthy love relationship.

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